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Originally Posted by xmad
dradeel,if it's ok why do you wanna talk to your kids gently to make them feel awkward?
or is it ok for the kids but your kids?
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You totally misunderstood me:
I'd talk to them, not tell them what to do... If I walk up on my son sitting there watching porn, I'd talk to him about it, so that he'd be more careful and wouldn't watch porn when I can come in and see him wank off right before my eyes. It's for his and my own best
Never would I tell my kids not to watch porn at all. They would have to find that out by themselves if so would be the case. By approaching kids in a decent matter by talking to them face to face -- you know, the flower and the bee-conversation and all that -- they will feel awkward, won't they? Awkward doesn't mean they can't do it again. But it means that they won't get angry at me for yelling at them and won't cooperate with me in any matter at all. Banning never works!
I said that I'd rather talk to them so they would feel awkward and then be more passive, meaning: hide their stack of porno magz or vids for that matter, or if it's about alchohol or drugs - be more careful with what the put into their bodies, and perhaps not come home as drunk "as last night". I'd never in my life yell at them and tell them not to - as I said I wouldn't. Aye?